Anyone who has been single for a long time, is unhappy in a relationship, feels unfulfilled or would like to know what makes successful relationships can find help in various books. These can open up new perspectives, answer questions, give suggestions or, ideally, even solve problems. We present five helpful works here.

A book that examines love and relationships from many sides and does away with unrealistic ideas is “Making Love” by Sandra Konrad. The author manages to no longer portray love as an intangible absolute, but as something that we can certainly influence and should no longer attach too many expectations or Hollywood ideas to. You can also find the detailed introduction to the book in our book series.

Couples and singles should also read the book “Love is Unique” by Aino Simon. Here you will find practical tips on how to communicate wishes better and find out what needs we have and how we become aware of them. A relationship guide that – as the name suggests – is looking for individual solutions and does not provide general recipes, but rather helpful suggestions for everyone. We have also presented this book in more detail in our book series.

The book “Everything About Love” by bell hooks also illuminates the topic of love in its entirety. What do we actually mean when we talk about love? The author wants to discuss this, among other things, and allows for topics such as longing, sex and fear to be discussed. The result is a work that may ultimately make some people think differently about love and relationships and ensure that they approach a relationship more freely.

The title “Rethinking Love” by Diane Hielscher also offers solutions, ideas, inspiration and valuable thoughts that can help our relationships with ourselves, with current people in our lives or future partners become lively and varied. The author has looked for clues about love in psychology, physics, chemistry, economics, neurology and even political science – and found them. Aspects such as money, the power of change and thinking about our identity are discussed. The book contains additional writing exercises, inspiration for meditation and thought games as well as tips from everyday life that are intended to show that we don’t have to wait for love, but rather influence how we want to love.

What does love actually need? Love − finds Oskar Holzberg and explains in his book what he means by it. The qualified psychologist and couples therapist does not believe in enduring ideals of love, but primarily in five aspects that cover the “map of love”: attachment, communication, emotions and sexuality, the relationship with ourselves and vulnerability. We should work on ourselves and the relationship in these areas to make it more long-lasting. Conducting experiments complete the expert’s practical and, above all, very realistic approach.

Tip: You can find more book recommendations from the editorial team on our topic page.

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