Did he just turn to look at the pretty woman, or is she eyeing the muscular man at the next table? External attributes are often identified as a risk factor for the relationship, in short as a trigger point for cheating. But the real key is buried much deeper within ourselves. In two different studies, researchers were able to define the four greatest risks of infidelity.
A Dutch study found that the number one reason for infidelity is relationship problems and in many cases cheating happens afterwards. If someone isn’t happy in their relationship, the likelihood of an affair is greater than if it’s just an external stimulus of the moment. But what exactly is the basis of relationship dissatisfaction?
The reasons were analyzed by two other studies presented in the specialist magazine “Psychology Today”. Around 1,300 people who live in a partnership and are on average 33 years old were interviewed in the studies. The focus of the surveys was on the topic of infidelity and the reasons for an infidelity, from which the researchers filtered four core risk factors:
General dissatisfaction There is usually a conflict in the relationship behind this point, but it does not have to be that way. Dissatisfaction with oneself can also lead to an infidelity. According to various studies, however, this is the main reason why people cheat in partnerships.
Accusations and Differing NeedsSelf-esteem suffers when a relationship is locked in a pattern of accusations. Formulations such as “You always do xy”, “You never do…” can make you feel pressured and look for a new sexual partner who desires you unconditionally and criticizes you less.
Loss of Attention and CaringWhen couples spend less time together, no longer really care about each other or even get bored with the time together, it can quickly lead to a new adventure outside of your own four walls.
Sexual preferencesPeople often do not dare to speak out when they have sexual preferences or desires. The consequence of avoiding a confrontation in the partnership is often that you look for an affair.
In general, however, it is true that an infidelity is not always linked to an imbalance in the relationship, some people are simply looking for a new kick or indulge in their sexual desire. However, the four risk factors mentioned can increase the probability.
Sources: Study 1, Psychology Today
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