“My daughter (5) often says things that are not correct. Why is she doing this? And when should I intervene and point out that it is wrong to lie?“
How great is the pleasure for parents on the first word, the first few sentences and the first stories your child is. But if it starts at some point, in the event of untrue stories to hold on, you are irritated, if not scared. Quickly parents do not fall, then sayings like “if you ever lie, you believe”, “lies have short legs”, or the biblical commandment “You shalt not lie”. But the fantasy of children’s stories really lies, the excuses, the child, to prohibit or to punish it?
Why not every “lie” is a lie
lie means deliberately to say deliberately the untruth, in order to draw an advantage. What do children Express in the age of up to seven years as a distorted reality, however, is rarely really a lie. Up to about school age, they are on the stage of development of the “magical thinking”. In this stage is often reversed dream and reality, fantasy and truth. Children can still be difficult to distinguish between what they see in reality and hear, and what you think of this and figure it out.
Other perception: film heroes are real
you have to invent stories and to experience daydreams as real. Characters in picture books and movies exist for you in reality, and some of the history is decorated in the children’s imagination further, and in the reality brought in. The shows, by the way, what a great responsibility parents have in this time for the selection of media for their children. Also, the sense of time is not pronounced in this age, so that children’s experiences mess things up or embellish.
change begins with eight years
With increasing age children begin, to reality and to think objectively, logically, and to Express themselves accordingly. From about the age of eight, your child between dream and reality is able to distinguish between imagination and perception. Then it takes quite instructions and admonitions, if it tells the truth. To its environment a successful deal, you must learn to a child with the time so as to perceive how it is in reality, and not as you would like.
parents need to atmosphere of honesty will create
The most important aid to learning, the parents are. From a young age children look to their model. Therefore, do not promise anything you can’t keep. Be honest and open with your child and other family members. You answer your children’s questions truthfully. They play their own white lies is not down. You apologize in the presence of the child for lying. You speak with the child about the negative effects of lying. Intervene when your child is lying intentionally to the own benefit will.
If your child grows up in an atmosphere of openness and honesty, it will be after the Phase of magical thinking openly and honestly and learn to distinguish between truth and falsehood.
This article was written by Margrit Dietze
Margrit Dietze teacher and author of pedagogical books and articles, children’s songs and Musicals.
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