“For every pot there is a lid” – not entirely true, because researchers have found that if you have certain characteristics, you run the risk of being single forever.
If you have the desire to find a partner as a single and go on one date after the other, but somehow it doesn’t really work out with a stable relationship, it could be because of your own personality. Psychologist Mark Travers reported on “Psychology Today” which characteristics could make you a long-term single without you perhaps realizing it.
Having children is not a priority in lifeMost people wish at some point in life to have a family of their own. So if you don’t feel the desire to have children, the search for a suitable partner will automatically become more difficult. However, there are also couples who decide together not to have children. According to studies, people without children are said to experience higher levels of “happiness in the moment,” while parents experience more thoughtful happiness or a heightened sense of life accomplishment. Research also shows that having a job is more important for life satisfaction than having a relationship or being married.
Career hungry If you are very fixated on your career and your job is everything to you, this is a clear indication that you are more of a single guy. Relationships cost time, money and sometimes nerves that many career-oriented people are not willing to give. Above all, potential partners do not always want to act second.
The RebelsIf you hate society’s imposition of norms and values like starting a family, monogamy and marriage, and generally don’t want to be forced into schemes, this could be a clear sign that you’re happier single.
The Unable to Attach Anyone who finds that they have a problem with strong attachments, drags childhood trauma behind them or anything else that makes itself felt again and again as a connection becomes more concrete, should get help. This scheme of avoiding attachment will probably not disappear overnight and ensures, sometimes consciously, sometimes unconsciously, that one repeatedly ends up single.
It is therefore important that you know what kind of person you are when making one of the most important decisions in your life, such as starting a family. According to the psychologist, however, around half of all adults today have real problems with entering into a long-term partnership and prefer to remain single voluntarily.
Quelle: Psychology Today
