After a breakup, people often go through many different emotional phases. Faster than you can see it goes from “I don’t need the other person”, “he can see where he is without me”, to “why did it all happen like this and how should it go on now?”, to “I cannot live without the other”.
Due to this emotional roller coaster, it can quickly happen that you make serious mistakes after the breakup that could harm you. That’s why you should be prepared for it and think carefully about whether you really want to take a certain step in one or the other clear minute.
Begging and whining Despair is almost always the most unattractive thing in a romantic relationship between people. Begging and whining for a fresh start after a breakup has rarely if ever helped anyone. But on the contrary. Either it really turns off the ex-partner or you get your new start out of pity – neither version is desirable and sustainable.
Ex-Effect: You degrade yourself and make yourself unattractive
Revenge and angerRevenge is usually a very short-lived feeling of relief. In the long run, retaliating or throwing tantrums after a breakup doesn’t do any good. Yes, after the daily stop on the rollercoaster of emotions, it is quite possible that you feel the need to really harm the other person. But if you are honest with yourself, what does it bring you personally? The emptiness will come back.
Ex-Effect: The ex-partner will move even further away from you
One Last TryMany people, especially women, think that if they could only seduce their ex and get them into bed one more time, there would be a chance to convince the other person wrong and start over. If you just try something new between the sheets and give 120 percent. But that is a fallacy.
Ex-Effect: You curry favor by hook or by crook, the effect is usually not sexy, but cheap and desperate
Let’s stay friendsIf the relationship didn’t fall apart because both have completely grown apart, but the separation is a one-sided wish, the friendship project is doomed to failure and only one reason to stay in contact with the other person. Sooner or later you will usually become very unhappy. Who would like to know as a new “friend” when the other is happy?
Ex-Effect: The phrase “Let’s stay friends” is a well-known phrase and everyone knows that it’s only desperation that makes you do it
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