After twelve years of marriage, Reese Witherspoon (47) and Jim Toth (52) want to divorce. The two recently announced this in a statement via Instagram. In it, they also explained that it was a “difficult decision”. An anonymous source has now revealed to People magazine that the split came after the two had “spent less time together” due to Witherspoon’s busy schedule.

However, the divorce was “not rushed”. Witherspoon and Toth “didn’t make it easy” for themselves, “it took a long time,” according to the insider. “It’s so hard for both of them.” It also says that there is “no drama”: “This decision is so difficult when there is so much friendship and love.”

According to the report, Witherspoon should continue to concentrate fully on her work. For the two, the family and their son Tennessee James (10) have the highest priority, as they themselves emphasized in their separation statement.

A relationship between Witherspoon and Toth was first reported in early 2010. They got engaged in December of the same year and married just a few months later. Their son Tennessee was born in 2012. Prior to her marriage to Toth, Witherspoon was also married to fellow actor Ryan Phillippe, 48, with whom she has daughter Ava, 23, and son Deacon, 19.