“I want to be polyamorous.” I hear this wish more and more often. With friends, in coaching, on Instagram. On the one hand, I can understand him well, but on the other hand, very few people know what to expect.
To be honest, I didn’t know until I had dinner with Martina and Peter. Both are in their 60s and met and fell in love after their divorce, when the children were grown and out of the house. They are married to each other and are openly polyamorous. I was hooked and asked both of them questions at the Indian restaurant over dinner.
The unusual couple has eight children (not together) and already grandchildren. Peter enjoys up to four relationships at the same time – including with men. And in addition to her husband, Martina also maintains a long-distance relationship with a woman. So they live openly “poly”. This means that there are other romantic partners in addition to your main relationship. The others, however, are not affairs, but real relationships. Everyone knows about each other and is fine with it.
I am deeply impressed. Your love life seems so exciting, varied and self-determined. Everyone loves the way he or she likes. Everyone is allowed to express themselves sexually and get involved. Falling in love, new practices, opposite genders – it feels like a giant adventure playground.
But the two of them wave me off at my euphoria.
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