“I want lovers. I want sex,” she says.
“Great, your husband will be happy,” I answer.
“But I want to feel other, new, foreign bodies,” she says to me. Her eyes glow as she says this and her body radiates excitement.
But then she suddenly collapses. “But what do I do with my husband? What if the children find out?” I experience this dilemma with many women. There is a sense of adventure, but it runs diametrically opposed to what is there: family and partner.
Why does this suddenly happen?
I know that about myself too. Suddenly I had the desire to kiss a woman, ride a motorcycle again, and learn to surf in South Africa. Out of the blue my body began to vibrate with these thoughts. To leave everything behind and be crazy and free again.
Why is this suddenly happening? I have my personal theory: the inner teenager. We often talk about the “inner child.” Many people know this term and are “working” on it. No wonder, the bestseller “The child in you must find a home” by Stefanie Stahl has been at the top of the Spiegel bestseller list for years.
But from my point of view, there is not only the inner child, but also the “inner teenager”. I notice that it is particularly persistent in women who did not let off steam when they were young. Women who married their first man, had children early, and didn’t try out sex, lovers, travel or craziness.
Between the ages of 35 and 45, your inner teenager comes forward and looks back on life. His conclusion: not enthusiastic.
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