“We are expecting our second child. I’m afraid that our daughter (2) could be jealous. How can I prepare now for the arrival of her Geschwisterchens and your role as a big sister?“
Prepare yourself together with your daughter on the Baby, do, baby toys choose the children’s room or the cabinets give. It is the big sister can help you to find your new place, if you feel important and needed. They will ask you when the Baby is here quiet often to help. No matter whether it’s a glass of water is served during the breastfeeding or the diaper in the Wrap. Or you can consider together whether you have everything for the Baby wrapped in when you leave the house. You give her the Chance, as a valuable part of the family.
Negative feelings not
But one thing: For her daughter and the arrival of a Sibling is a profound experience that can not only go hand-in-hand with positive feelings. You must share the attention and affection of their parents, which they had before for themselves. Even adults feel themselves in situations uncomfortable, in your felt square moved. So hardly anyone would accept that the Partner brings another Person into the relationship. To confess to her daughter, therefore, negative feelings such as sadness, anger, and jealousy toward the new child.
emotions Express
it is Important to prevent these feelings, it is to accompany children in it. For your daughter, what is going on in you is sometimes very confusing. Because in addition to the joy and love in the new way of being and Proud to be the Great, it has also all the other feelings. It also true that she is the Only one that feels that way, because she sees how excited you are as a parent, fully.
you can help her in this Situation, if you give her words for what she feels. To talk to you, what you perceive. “I see that you’re sad because I’m already so busy with the Baby and you will have to wait.” Show her that what she feels must be felt.
don’t scold or punish
is Often behind the desire to avoid jealousy, the fear that the child might be the Baby to gross. That just small children who can’t Express themselves well, show your frustration as is possible. You have your daughter so in the eye and be present. If she annoys the Baby, go in between them gently.
do not Make yourself clear that your daughter is doing it to annoy someone. You can’t act in such situations in a different way. Scold or penalties would aggravate the anger on the Baby. Consider this: two years ago, her daughter is now Big, but still a small child.
Set the big sibling, another person on the page. This can be the parent who cares less about the Baby, but also grandparents, or adult friends that regularly come to spend exclusive time with the big sister.
Daniela Albert is the parent and family consultant, lives with her family in Kassel, Germany, and blogs at eltern-familie.de.
This article was written by Daniela Albert
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