Are you one of those people who believe in great Hollywood love? The kind of love that just happens, defies all circumstances, is always unconditional and never ends? And believe that at some point you will find the right person and that you will understand each other without words and never argue? Then this book is definitely for you. But also for anyone who occasionally encounters problems in their relationship – or has been single for a long time. Because the book “Making Love” by Sandra Konrad shows which expectations of love are realistic and which are not, how you manage to have a healthy relationship and, above all, what the whole thing has to do with yourself and with constant Work. In itself and the relationship.
However, the couples therapist does not destroy all hope for love and relationship happiness. On the contrary: It explains why initially strong love often leads to a quick end to a relationship or an argument and makes it clear what couples can do to avoid exactly that. She relies on many everyday examples from her practice, which make the book and her tips very approachable. Many will recognize themselves in this.
Konrad uses examples to make it clear that an affair does not have to mean the end of a relationship. But sometimes it is also an opportunity to understand what triggered the cheating and what those involved can take from it. The reasons for an affair are often varied and can go much further than neglect or a slip-up at a party night where alcohol was involved. And the expert addresses exactly these possible reasons in a wonderfully open manner and ensures that both women and men feel addressed and can understand the other side better. Or yourself and your own motivation. Even if it may sometimes be unpleasant or complex.
But there is not only room for the topic of infidelity, but also aspects that some people don’t like to deal with: the approaching end of the relationship and when it is better to leave, even if it is difficult. Or the topic of sex and incompatible preferences. The importance of similarities and contrasts, of arguments and communication are just as important as suggestions on the topics of marriage, the desire to have children and loyalty. In some places the book is reminiscent of “Love is better unique” by Aino Simon, which is also about moving away from rigid ideas about love and monogamy, but rather approaching a relationship more individually.
In doing so, Dr. Sandra Konrad doesn’t treat these topics in a clichéd and trite way, but sheds light on them from other sides and is by no means rigid or too theoretical, but rather humorous and far-sighted. And it is precisely this open, realistic, everyday and routine look at love that makes the book so important. And anyone who wants to “make love” should definitely read it – it will help.
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