The Spanish Episcopal Conference (EEC) has proposed a course of two to three years to train the bride and groom before the marriage, because they considered that the 20 hours of workshops, premarital current are not enough. One of the goals is to avoid tears since, according to the “five years, we have broken the 40% of marriages”.
“When I was a pastor, asked the bride and groom, why are you in the workshop prior to marriage? One said: ‘it Is that if you do not, do not give us a paper and we can not get married”, it has been reported this Thursday at the presentation of the course the bishop of Bilbao and president of the subcommission for the family and the defense of the life of the EEC, Mario Iceta. “I said: ‘you False. You are here because according to statistics, in the five years it have broken the 40% of marriages and at the age of 15, 60%, and we come to prepare ourselves to avoid that,” he continued.
in Addition, has insisted that the 20 hours that usually lasts for a workshop prior to marriage are not enough. “To be a priest missing seven years in the seminary and to be a husband, wife, father and mother, what, 20 hours?”, it has been asked.
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A course is not mandatory with 12 topics
The new agenda, entitled Together on a journey, +Q2, and prepared with the collaboration of a dozen of marriages, is composed of 12 topics that address topics such as sexuality, premarital relations, the fidelity or resolution of conflicts.
This course, which is available on the website of the sec, free of charge, is not compulsory as such, although each diocese will be able to accept it and decide what is the formation that requires the bride and groom to marry, as has been pointed out Iceta.
The bride and groom that made the course attend sessions every 15 days, as explained by the marriage formed by Fran and Toñi, who carried 21 years married and who have participated in the preparation of the material. “We went to a few workshops of two days and we were surprised that at times when purchasing a robot of kitchen you have more training than to get married”, has raised Fran.
As indicated by this husband, a journey of two years may seem long but it is necessary, as well as defend Ignacio and Pilar, another of the marriages that have worked. According to accurate Ignacio, to prepare the materials have been supported in the cinema and the literature. The agenda that appears on the web account with small videos of the movies To the last man, Mel Gibson, or the film’s animated upside down. Also, there are a number of duties to the bride and groom as, for example, to go to mass once a month together or participate in family events.
Asked whether the course addresses the problem of male violence, the bishop Mario Iceta has indicated that “without doubt” during the itinerary with the bride and groom insist that “the love is absolutely contrary to this violence is detestable”, users will be warned of jealousy and will test the bride and groom through a series of questionnaires. Even, he has stated, in the event that they are not “mature”, they will be invited to not to marry.
Relationships-marital, pornography and masturbation
Among the topics included in the itinerary, also shelled the subject of sexuality. In this section, the bishops propose to the bride and groom the “chastity” until after the wedding. “The panic to the delivery total ago has been extended to test the sex before being married”, indicate, at the time that they underscore the fact that the Church is “opposed” to this kind of relationship.
Also warn of the “pansexualismo”, when “the focus of attention in the proceeding and in the spirit of the person is centered around the pleasure of sexuality, and as such, the media try to seduce the individual with the attraction of that pleasure.”
Also, consider the pornography and masturbation as a “threat” to the marriages. In particular, on pornography, remember that, according to the Catechism of the Church, “distorts the purpose of the sexual act” and “attentive seriously the dignity of those who are devoted to her.” About masturbation, they show that it is “an act intrinsically and gravely disordered”.
“masturbation may seem to only affect us during the courtship, but by its very essence, can have a component that is addictive it also affects some marriages”, point.
