Today I want to tell you about my most serious mistake in bed: namely, only wanting to experience good emotions.
During sex I wanted to experience ecstasy, devotion, horniness, letting go, love, waves of pleasure and orgasms. Instead I encountered: anger, frustration, shame, impatience, listlessness and my inner critic.
I’m being completely honest here. When the smooching and hugging starts, my inner critic immediately speaks up and says: “Will that work today?”, “I don’t know. It doesn’t start that well”. It used to be the end of that spot. I was so preoccupied with my inner critic that I couldn’t even engage in foreplay.
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