Of course it sounds tempting: some manufacturers of lay-on or pressure wave vibrators advertise with an orgasm guarantee. But can every woman really climax with it? Sexologist Dania Schiftan explains to stern whether that can be true – and what you should know if you use sex toys such as a vibrator.
First of all, it is interesting to know that a distinction is often made between a vaginal and a clitoral orgasm. The vaginal orgasm is achieved through penetration. This happens when a penis or a “classic” vibrator penetrates the vagina and is moved. The legs of the clitoris are also touched and stimulated by the movement. It usually comes more slowly to orgasm.
A lay-on or pressure wave vibrator is usually only designed for the clitoral orgasm and specifically stimulates a specific point through pressure waves or the combination of vibration and suction. It is placed on the clitoris. This is particularly intense, especially when the point is stimulated by sucking and the intensity-adjustable vibration. Many women are more likely to have a clitoral orgasm than a vaginal one. There are also sex toys that can do both clitoral arousal and penetration.
Anyone who wants to try out masturbation with such a sex toy or want to use it for lovemaking can usually choose between different types of pressure wave vibrators: those that only work with pressure waves; those that work with pressure waves, vibration and/or suction or those that work with pressure waves and penetration.
The Satisfyer is one of the classic pressure wave vibrators. It has an ergonomic shape, is waterproof and is very handy. This also makes it a great companion for travel or for couple games. With the newer versions of the Satisfyer, pressure waves and the intensity of the vibration can be individually adjusted so that they can be adapted to every need.
The Womanizer advertises with an orgasm guarantee. The sex toy provides clitoral stimulation through pressure waves without overstimulation. The Womanizer Liberty has six intensity levels, is waterproof and comes with a cap and two stimulation attachments. The latest model of the Womanizer is even recyclable.
Like a classic lay-on or pressure wave vibrator the new Enigma from Lelo also uses sound waves without direct contact for clitoral stimulation. But it excites twice: both the clitoris − the visible and invisible parts − and the vagina. The sex toy has an ergonomic internal stimulator, a fully flexible extended arm with vibration to stimulate the G-spot, eight different settings and intensity control and is made of soft silicone that is particularly delicate to the touch.
Dania Schiftan is a sexologist and psychotherapist. Among other things, in her book “Coming Soon” she wrote about the fact that orgasms can be learned. But can there really be something like an “orgasm guarantee” through lay-on or pressure wave vibrators? “Yes and no,” says the expert. She can imagine that a lay-on or pressure wave vibrator can provide the ideal conditions for a clitoral orgasm. “But how comfortable and pleasurable that really is is another story.”
Schiftan explains: “I distinguish between an orgasmic discharge and an orgasm. The former is purely physical: the muscles twitch through vibration or other types of stimulation and discharge occurs. The latter comes about in combination with emotions, the experience.” An orgasmic discharge is certainly possible quickly and effectively with the help of a pressure wave vibrator.
But it could happen that masturbation is then used as a “discharging station” rather than as a sensual experience. “For many women, climaxing is easy, but it also makes it harder when they start interacting with a partner again. Getting aroused with your fingers, tongue, or penis can then take longer and takes time again more practice,” says Dania Schiftan. You can also become “lazy” by using such an effective tool.
Is a sensual orgasm also possible with the help of a sex toy and without a partner? Yes, says Dania Schiftan: “If you don’t just use the vibrator on the head of the clitoris, but move it and thus distribute the experience in the body, it becomes more sensual. You should let it rise, consciously take your time,” explains the sexologist and advises: “You can also include lay-on vibrators in your love life and that can also make sense. But what a sex toy doesn’t train is playing with your partner, experiencing tongue, fingers, penis and overall touching.” This should not be replaced by a pressure wave vibrator, only supplemented. Then the experience becomes really sensual and there is not only discharge, but an orgasm that combines emotions and physical sensations.
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